The Four No-Bull Truths
Imagine our hearts are like big batteries in an electrical system, and the main ways we charge them is by connecting to Spirit, one’s soul, others’ hearts, and nature. To facilitate this, there’s complex circuitry connecting all of this life. Our circuitry goes from our heart - through our mind, language, and conditioning - out to actions, to others, and to life itself. If our circuity is “mis-wired,” we create shorts, shocks, power outages, fires, blown breakers, loose hot wires, and fried batteries (hearts).
An electrician knows how to “cleanly” wire a system so it’s dependable and safe, but tragically most modern humans attempt to function with the equivalent of a rat’s nest of crossed, loose, and corroding wires in their “electrical” system. Wiring issues are found in our minds -- how we think, listen, speak, and interpret other’s words and actions. We also find wiring issues socially - in how we design and operate intimate relationships, families, businesses, schools, and governments. When our energy flows through mis-wired circuitry, it’s nearly impossible to produce the beautiful results our hearts long for. If our precious dreams of love, family, community, and inner-and-world peace are going to manifest, the first step is to fix our faulty wiring! Only if our circuits are “cleanly” wired, can we dependably and safely flow high voltage to our dreams!
I’m not the first person to notice and speak to “mis-wired circuits.” Buddha did. Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of Nonviolent Communication, did. Shadow work pioneers, cultural revolutionaries, and maybe even your grandma did too. Truly, most wisdom-teachings are efforts to re-wire our minds, so the mind serves our heart, and supports sustainable and holistic thriving in life. Yet we still have broken hearts and dreams. Why? Because humanity is on a huge learning curve and healing journey, and this is just where we’re at.
No matter how sincere and focused you are, you’ll still be thwarted by “faulty wiring.” To have our lives “work” holistically and sustainably, our circuitry must be “clean.” Mine was a mess! That inspired me to re-evaluate my life and write the book: The Four No-Bull Truths Of Clan And Heart Based Group Intimacy: A Guidebook to Healing, Activating, And Living Our Holistic Hearts In Multi-Generational Bonded Community. I’m convinced that there are a lot of well-meaning people creating results they don’t like in their lives, relationships, and families, because they are innocently and zealously flowing their energy through poorly designed circuitry. Clean the circuits up and we can get the “light bulb” (our dreams and relationships) to turn on and stay on sustainably. I trust living the principles and practices of The Four No-Bull Truths can truly re-wire our circuitry. I invite you to consider the hard-earned wisdom I’ve gained thru 30+ years of pioneering.
My name is, Ano Tarletz Hanamana. I’m a sustainable-and-holistic culture pioneer. From 1969-1990 I lived as a typical, domesticated, suburban American: public school, TV, supermarkets, malls, cars, fantasy, and then off to college. But something happened to me near the end of college, and just after I graduated, that sent me in a radically different direction. I walked away from my birth culture and moved to rural East Hawaii, in Pele’s realm, where I began a thorough and holistic death/rebirth process that transformed most everything about how I lived and what I was creating. This was a massive undertaking to say the least!
Eventually, in 2002, with my then-partner, I bought the 18-acres that’s now GaiaYoga Gardens (GYG.) GYG is a sanctuary and research station for pioneering sustainable-and-holistic culture. It’s also a home to me, my biological family, and an intentional community. Now, GYG is densely planted with fruiting trees, and around 1000 people have lived here for days to years. The community and vision continue to evolve and refine. We’ve celebrated and mourned, grown and shrunk, and throughout it all I’ve been “in the trenches,” learning what supports and undermines holistic community and human connection. My life’s devoted to incarnating GaiaYoga Consciousness and Culture using all the resources I can muster.
The Four No-Bull Truths is my 5th book. I also published Instinctive Eating, 1996; An Introduction To GaiaYoga, 2001; True Human Freedom, 2016; and The Dharma In Song: The Complete Lyrics Of Nagdeo (1987-2022). Nagdeo is my band - www.nagdeo.org. We’ve made three albums and are working on a 4th.
I thought I was done writing books, but in 2021 my intimate sphere and GYG’s community dissolved and I found myself very confused and grief-stricken. Many people would have just collapsed and quit, but I picked myself back up and started a two-year-long meditation on why these unwanted events occurred. I trust that “Designs reveal themselves accurately in life.” So, I knew that if I tore apart the wiring and inspected it thoroughly, I could figure out why it fried, and then redesign and repair it and again use it safely. So that’s what I did, and the main fruit of that process is the book, The Four No-Bull Truths.
I’ll tell you what The Four No-Bull Truths are shortly, but simply reading the four short statements will not transmit the profoundness of what I’ve unearthed in my two-year re-evaluation of my life, the lives of those I’ve been in relationship with, and how to create community. I think telling you “why” is more important and inspiring… As I said above, people make choices based on their best consciousness - yet often don’t produce their desired results. Most people I know are just resigned to there being a huge gap between the beautiful world they know could be true and the world they inherited and recreate. I’m not content to have that gap be the limit of my life, or the life I pass down to the coming generations of humans. I know in my heart that if we get our designs in alignment with our nature, and learn to execute our designs well, that we can produce the results we truly want. E.g. If we want to play an exquisite piece of classical music as an orchestra, we need a design (the musical composition) and we need to execute it well - quality instruments, and people who can read music, learn their parts well, work together with other musicians, etc.
We can have a composition (a vision or goal) but if we don’t make the choices that actually lead that way it won’t manifest. Or we can work diligently, but have a poor composition or ineffective technique, and still not manifest what we want. We need an effective structure to grow and sustained effective action to grow that structure. I can’t force other musicians to practice, respond to honest feedback, or be accountable to the composition we all said we wanted to play together. But I can commit myself to that song, do what I need to play my part, and only participate with people who will show up similarly. While this might mean playing alone, it ensures that the composition won’t get corrupted and co-opted by other people on the same stage playing something else. I’m devoted to this composition and playing it exquisitely.
Below are The Four No-Bull Truths. If you’re curious, I wrote a 362-page book, to unpack and clarify the details and obstacles to healing, activating, and living our Holistic Hearts in multi-generational bonded community. There’s much more to birthing and sustaining clan-and-heart-based group intimacy than these four truths, but they are the foundation. Indeed, if it was that simple, we’d all be doing it already!
1) Intimacy and sexuality with others - to be sustainable and healthy - must be balanced and integrated with connection to self, nature, family/community, and Spirit/God.
2) A human being can only stably and holistically engage in one intimate sphere at a time.
3) One cannot expand their intimate sphere effectively if one undermines their pre-existing intimate relationships and family while doing it.
4) True Holistic Love is not nice.